Tag: self-improvement
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Commitment, Dedication, and Persistence that Wanes
You know, if I must admit, there are certain individuals with whom I am jealous. The ones I am referring to now are the ones that have this uncanny ability to have self-discipline with the mundane, with the day-in and day-out, with less than glamorous tasks. And it’s a bit misleading to think that all…
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Violational Experience & State-Control
This is a synthesis of two previous entries. One article was titled “Experience that Violates Expectation” and made the claim that true change occurs when one has a meaningfully different experience than what was expected—that resists being absorbed back into the current belief system, thereby forcing an inner reorganization. The second article was titled “State-Control”…
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Experience That Violates Expectation
I was considering a client I am working with, and while considering something about them I wrote perhaps the most important line in my work as a therapist yet. The absolute best way to break conscious/unconscious sets, ingrained beliefs, life rules, organizing/governing principles—is to contradict them and to experience something different than what’s expected. This…
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On Play
The sound of children’s laughter and voices. Smell of dirt and grass. The feel of a warm air breeze on the skin. The taste of some summer treat like ice cream or a snowcone. Remember when the world was easy? It was full of joyous discoveries and you would wonder at what could be. A…
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The Alchemy of Disappointment
I wrote this piece as a result of noticing what’s been taking place within me. I have been disappointed by many things and I decided to capture what it’s been like for me. I am publishing it unedited as something beautiful happens when we let what is raw be seen. This is dissolution and conjunction.…
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The Medicine of Ambiguity: Why Not Knowing is Better
“Not knowing what?” You may ask. Exactly. How do we figure out anything? How does one come to know? How you answer reveals everything about how you live. If your answer is, “simple, just ask”, at first glance it may seem very innocent. I’d like to strong-arm you into looking closer. That answer is about…
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On Pretending
Is anyone else tired of pretending? Wearing masks, shielding themselves with armor, holding back their true voice? Me too. Sometimes pretending is fun—a nice game in which to creatively engage others with joyous connection. Sometimes pretending takes the form of childish learning. Sometimes pretending is wearing a face you don’t mean and speaking with a…
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On Learning
Intellectual knowledge, while vastly important, is not enough. This is the difference between knowledge and wisdom. Having information, but no clue of how to apply it–what’s the point? It is essential to have experiential learning with any knowledge that you want to deeply embody. You know this, even if you don’t know this. Wisdom is…
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